Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Laura Levitt's Talk
I guess I don't see how being Jewish has anything to do with loss. And if anyone has ever been envious or felt left out that they didn't have anyone in their past who died in the Holocaust, then I feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for them because if they even remotely have the nerve to be upset that someone in their family didn't DIE, then they obviously need to seriously re-evaluate their view of life and loss. Death is about being human; it is not about being Jewish. It is basic human nature, and while it brings relief to some, it brings grief to all.
I don't need to have someone in my family who died in the Holocaust. My papa was a doctor in WWII, and that's the closest that I have. But when I lost my papa, I cared more than I possibly could if I had never met him. Sure, he may have died in the war, he may have died a hero for his people. But he didn't die in the war--he died when he did, and he was a hero to me and everyone who knew him. I may not be able to identify with the others of current generations who lost someone in the Holocaust, but I can identify with those of the past. I can identify with those who were only 20 years old and needed more than their two hands to count the number of loses they considered "personal". I can identify with those who were only 20 years old and had to actually sit down and almost write out a list of the number of people who had died in their recent past because there were so many that they couldn't readily think of them. Some died from natural causes. Some were taken prematurely. Many actually took their own life. I can identify with them because I am one of them. Not because I'm Jewish, not because I'm not-Jewish, but because I'm human.
What have I learned from personal loss? I've learned that I need to keep going. I've learned that you only have one life, and even when all you want to do is make it end, you can't. You can't and you won't. So you say a little prayer, you go to sleep, you wake up in the morning, and you keep going. And it gets better. You will start to form a new spirituality, a new reason for living. You will start to teach others about what loss really is, so that they can be ready for it when the time comes. And you start to realize that yes, being given this position is not fair, but it's what you've got, and it was given to you for a reason, and so you make the best of it.
I don't know if this was really the response you were looking for, but I guess Laura's discussion just provoked a part of me that's been waiting to release its frustration. I don't know if I'm completely disagreeing with what she has to say, but I know that there are some areas of life which transcend any possible religious, cultural, national, or spiritual identity, and one of those areas is death.
Monday, May 12, 2008
Not All Losses Are Morally Equivalent:A Response To Dr. Levitt
How does one persons' loss,whatever it may be, enable him/her to understand the mass losses of the Holocaust when not all losses are the same? And if all losses are not the same,how can one persons' loss possibly be compared to that of someone who experienced loss from the Holocaust?These were some of the questions floating in my head after hearing Dr. Laura Levitt's lecture.
Overall, she spoke beautifully of the significance of telling stories about ordinary people.All the while she spoke, I found myself wondering about my own family's background and how little I really know.This is precisely what she wanted to ignite in us.For her, the way to "never forget" is to delve into our own losses,feel their pain,then link the events back to the Holocaust to understand .Quite far-fetched I'll say! Also,she didn't share much about her own personal familial losses-I would have like to hear the circumstances surrounding the death of her paternal grandmother. Still, she had some good insights.For example, I liked what she said about each person having their own, particular emotional response to the Holocaust.While reverence and respect are customarily the feelings attached to the Holocaust,she spoke about engaging the feelings of inner city kids who had seen Schnidler's List.
Finally,I do not believe all losses are or should be placed on the same level.I think a measure of morality needs to be incorporated into any loss.For example,the loss of life in a concentration camp is not morally equivalent to to the loss of life by natural cause.Yet,Dr.Levitt did not attach any moral repercussions to the losses of the "ordinary people" she spoke about.Instead, she said all losses touch at the core.Indeed Holocaust discourse is emotional,but what we must "never forget" are the senseless acts of immorality perpetrated against the Jews.Anyway,I think as the generation of the Holocaust passes away,we are less likely to remember these individual stories because as Director of the American Committee,Steve Bayme writes,"the Holocaust is no longer central to identifying as a Jew.The Holocaust occupies a rightful place as a dominant event of our time,[however]constructing a Jewish identity upon a narrative of Jewish destruction [is not]who and what the Jews are."